It’s Your Life! Do the Work!

Kimm and i have come across this all too often  and it’s an issue we must speak to. We are healers and guides, not fortune tellers. Yes, we do readings with cards and runes, but these are meant to clear away the fog in your head, and perhaps help you find direction. The hard work is yours alone to do.

Many people want to be told what is going to happen, and basically  hear only what they want to hear. They don’t realize that self actualization – self awareness and self acceptance –  is a solitary process and you are either going to make the investment in yourself or not. “The Work”, as Byron Katie calls it, is what you need to immerse yourself in to get to where you want to go. No one can do this for you.

Kimm and I can usually tell at first meeting whether or not a new client is really ready to be mentored by us. Lots of women are so married to their stories and not willing to step out of their comfort zones. They have a million excuses why they “can’t”. Sometimes we will work with these women even though we know they are not ready for change or to work on and with themselves. But too often it is a waste of time and money.

Let me say this to those of you who want answers. The answers are all there inside you NOW. You just have to clear away the debris and stop playing the same tapes over and over in your head. The past is done and the future is not yet here. Change is the only thing you can be certain of, and that change can be for your growth or for ill. And make no mistake: Stagnation is for ill.

So if you want to know who you are and who you might become, roll up your sleeves and get ready to get dirty. Ask yourself this question: Do I care enough about myself to work on me? And know that any healer worth her salt, will be there with you every step on your journey. But remember that the work belongs to you.



Need a Quick Spiritual Pick-me-up?

It really doesn’t matter what form of spiritulity we practice, sometimes we get ourseves into a rut, because rituals are just that, rituals. And often this means doing the same thing over and over again. Though we choose these practices because they bring us joy and peace, things can still get a little stale sometimes.

It’s like being in love, in the beginning it’s all fire, but as time goes by, things calm down. And also, just like romance, just because the fire begins to fade, doesn’t make it any less special. It may just be time for a quick pick-me-up.

We offer you 10 ways to add a little spice to your spiritual practice:

1. Study another form of spirituality, widen your horizons

2. If you meditate, change your meditation music or the amount of time you meditate.

3. Visit a spiritual center, and for you this could be the local art museum. If it is, take in the majesty that is the talent of the human mind.

4. Study the history of your own spiritual practice and see where all of these rituals actually come from.

5. Ask a friend to meditate with you or go to yoga class with you and then head out for a cup of coffee or tea afterwards and discuss how you feel, physically and emotionally.

6. Take a break. It’s ok to not celebrate the full moon this month or the new moon next month. Instead use that night for a date, a movie by yourself, or chill with a glass of wine or sparkling seltzer. Just take an overall break.

7. Start a spiritual book club. You can follow many online book clubs or start your own from scratch. It can be virtual, you can  meet up on Google or Skype, or have an old-fashioned house get-together where everyone brings a dish.

8. Add nature into your practice if you haven’t already. Take a walking meditation, or a swimming meditation. Meditation is simply a practice that enables you to try to “be here now”.

9. Checkout sites like where you can locate like-minded people with whom you can socialize and chat with about your victories and your challenges. Sometimes it’s good to commiserate.

10. Have a once a month ritual with friends and during these meetings listen to other’s rituals and begin to try and combine rituals while you’re together.

Sometimes we all get a bit bored with our own spiritual practices, and it has nothing to do with not loving our rituals, sometimes they just need a little shake-me-up. It is also good to examine and interview yourself to see if it is time to change practices. This could definitely be an option that no one should feel guilty about.

An old Buddhist proverb says, ” when you are in the river, you travel by canoe, but once you hit the mountain, it would be silly to drag the canoe up with you.”

How to Keep Your Business Juicy

For those of us with small businesses, acting as entrepreneurs or solopreneurs as they call it today, it is a must in the beginning that you do most every task on your own. Usually small or micro businesses don’t have the currency to hire people to build glossy websites, add intricate shopping carts, and create beautiful graphics for your site and social media. All of that we do ourselves, and if you are entrepreneurs like we are, you understand what we are talking about.

In the beginning, it’s all so much fun and quite interesting. You’re learning something new, building something of your own with your own personality embedded within it, (fancy computer word), and it all seems honkey dory until year one passes, still going strong, year 2 passes, where are our readers, year 3 comes along and you haven’t written a post in a while, year 4 is here, and it’s like, “where is my tribe?” “Everyone told me I’d find my tribe by now. Well, maybe you do, maybe you don’t, or maybe you’re just getting to meet some of your tribe. But it can seem like a lot of work for no return. Not that profit and readers are everything, but if you are a professional blogger and mentor, profits and readers would be nice. Can I get an amen on that or namaste, or ase, or something?

So how do you keep it all fresh and motivating?

Here are a few tips to help you keep your business juicy!

1. Ask yourself is this really me? Is this business a reflection of my authentic self? If yes, then move forward. If no, then why the hell are you doing this?

2. Ok, now find a motivator. I have Andie and she plainly said hey, we have let iWonder kind of slip out of our minds, do you still love it? And we both decided that iWonder is us, authentically, and we did still love the concept and the business. If you are working solo, this motivator could be a best friend, relative, spouse, or your inner guide.

3. If you are at number three, well, we know you want to keep going with your business, no matter what it is, but you may want to make some changes to it, keep it exciting for you, change your style, your motto, change your website and the way it looks. Just because you got a little bored doesn’t mean that you have to throw the baby out with the bath water.

4. Do or try something you’ve never tried before. Sell your items on your site, or if you’ve been doing that, open an Etsy store, or use social media, like Instagram to sell yourself or your wares. Simply create a spark within your business that is a new way of doing things.

5. Add a new element to your business, something you’ve never offered before and don’t worry about the consequences. It will either work or not, but the joy of trying will create within you a new fire for the business you have decided that you still love.

Andie and I have come a long way with iWonder and we have made many changes but if it were not for the amazing women we’ve met this past year and this year, it wouldn’t be the same. So thank you! And go out there and keep working on that juicy business!

Last Two Weeks of Mind/Body Connection Challenge

15. Having come this far in our Mind/Body Connection Journal Prompt Challenge, has your attitude towards anything shifted in any way? How?

16. What would it take for you to look within whenever you get sick or injured?
17. Whenever you come down with a cold or the flu, do you ever think about what purpose it might serve?  Why?
18. When you get sick, do you ever think about what is going on in your life that might contribute to your illness?
19. How does the mind/body connection journal assist you in dealing with illness and/or injury.
20. Does fear play a role in how you think and feel? Explain.
21. Does anger play a role in how you think and feel? Explain.
22. Fear and anger are two of the most debilitating emotions. How do they affect you on a daily basis?
23. Do you believe fear and anger can cause illness and injury? Why?
24. Do you believe that you can learn something from each experience you have?
25. How can you learn from illness? Explain in detail.
26. If you have a bad sore throat or cough, can you see how that may keep you from expressing yourself?
27. Can you see illness or injury as symbols of a deeper issue? If not, why?
28. If you have continuing bouts of illness throughout the year, what emotional issues are you dealing with?
29. Can you see how chronic asthma can symbolize feeling smothered by life? Does that makes sense to  you.
30. Can you see serious illnesses like cancer, as symbols of deeper issues?
31. Having finished this challenge, how do you feel about the mind/body connection? Will this challenge change how you cope with physical setbacks?

Grief, and the Ephemeral Quality of Life

As many of you know, Kimm and I live on a 150 acre horse ranch in New Mexico. For 2 city girls we have acclimated more than well here and learned a lot about horses. There are over 30 horses on this beautiful land and we have been privileged to witness new babies being born – Kimm especially. As big and strong as these beasts are, they are also extremely fragile. Death is a regular occurrence here. And that is something we cannot get used to. I hope we never do.

Less than a week ago a new colt was born to Joy, one of the many mares here. Our landlady told us that the first 24 hours were a dicey time for new babies. But Justice, as he was named, seemed to be doing fine. Joy was a great mom and very protective, and he was nursing as he needed to.

Suddenly, on the third day, Justice developed a fever and our landlady gave him medication for it and he was better the following day. But we found out he had a very bad bacterial infection and died soon after. He had been so tiny, with “legs up to here”, and very playful and then suddenly he was gone.

Our landlady and Kimmie and I were devastated. Not too long before. another one of our mares had had a stillbirth and that was bad enough. But this loss hit us particularly hard.

As destiny would have it, Joy still had work to do. Another horse owner had to put a nursing mare down and the foal needed a mother. He called our landlady and shortly thereafter he was driving Joy to his ranch to see if she would accept the foal. We just got word that it looks good. With a little human help, the foal is nursing. If all goes well, life will have come full circle and Joy will have fulfilled her purpose. It’s a beautiful thing, coming from a terrible tragedy.

As our landlady, Kimm and I grieve for Justice, we cannot help but believe that this was meant to be. Justice goes back to heaven and another foal gets a chance at life. It must be a blessing!

July Journaling Mind/Body Challenge

July Mind/Body Connection Challenge

Journal Prompts

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Asking Ourselves the Tough Questions

Questions will be posted 7 at a time, weekly

1.  How do you feel about your body right now – both aesthetically and as a working mechanism?

And here we want your feelings – not intellectualizations!

2.  Is there one area of your body that troubles you? Speak about it from a purely feeling perspective. What are the emotions attached to this part of your body? Think abstractly about this and free associate. For example, if your knee bothers you, what does it inhibit you from doing? Are feelings of fear attached to it? Fear of what? If you are really overweight and cannot seem to shed the pounds for your good health, what does the weight protect? What does it represent?

3.  Go through all the parts of your body and attach emotions to them.

4. Name the parts of your body that you like and how you feel about each one.

5. Name the parts of your body that you do not like and how you feel about each one.

6. When you have pain in your body what do you usually do about it? How does it affect your day-to-day activities?

7.  When you have pain in your body what do you feel about it?

8.  Have you ever considered the possibility that your emotions cause your body’s distress?
9.  Have you ever noticed that when pain leaves one part of your body, it crops up somewhere else? What does this say to you?
10. Are you the kind of person who is in touch with her emotions and expresses them when an appropriate moment arises?
11. Are you the kind of person who is forever worried about what others will think about you? Why?
12. If you don’t believe in the mind/body connection, why? Having got this far in our journaling process has your mind shifted? Why?
13. A lot of people suffer from joint pain. What does this say about their emotional flexibility, or their flexibility as a person?
14. Are you one of these people with joint pain? From an emotional point of view, what do you feel about it?


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Summer Solstice by Damara @trueseedtemp on Instagram

Summer solstice!


Hot and sticky. Sweet and supple. Wet and humid. Everything is in full blossom, full force and savagely demanding a particular energy from us. This reminds me very much of the sexy side in all of us! Need to to be seen, to be felt, heard, to taste! To explore and discover.

In the summer the heat rises, the energy is arousing, and intimate, much like the rising of those intimate energies between you and your lover! It stimulates that “g-spot” in your soul, enticing you to open up, and release all that pleasure and excitement you’ve been holding onto since last winter.  You begin to wear less, not only for the weather, but because you want to show off your beautiful body. You gain a certain confidence about yourself. In your own special way, You KNOW you are the shit and you you don’t mind who knows it.

When you hear that it’s officially summer, it’s like a sensor inside goes off, and alerts you to start celebrating. I mean look at what happens. We begin to plan parties, events and special gatherings, festivals and ceremonies. We make it a POINT to celebrate. To get wild and free.

This the peak- we do all these things for PLEASURE! To feel good, happy, sexy, abundant- we indulge ourselves in pleasurable acts of all kinds to experience this euphoria. It’s the intercourse of the spirit!

The summer solstice is a reminder of all these things to me, the meaning of intimacy, sensuality -a time where we can truly get in tune with our bodies, our families, our friends and even with nature. A time where we are using all of our senses to experience the sweetness of life, the many fruits of our labors, the time of togetherness and unity.

Even if you have family or friends you haven’t seen in months or even years, when you finally come back together, it’s like you picked up where you left off. You are filled with joy, gratitude, and love for being able to share this moment.

More recently, the summer solstice has given me a much deeper sense of connection to my own roots. My ancestors. Learning that all these celebrations we have for the sake of celebration, all these nights around fires, dancing, laughing and singing, all the medicines from mother earth, entering into my wounds and showing me the beauty in the seemingly difficult. Seeing in myself, the many women of my bloodline, not being defined by words , but truly by my spirit.

Summer takes you and helps you to heal. Surrounded in the lush greenery. Bright and vibrant hues of plants, animal life and the effortless beauty growing all around and inside of you. It helps you to remember how beautiful life is. Each moment, each day and second. It reminds you that change is always necessary, and can be for the better if you choose to accept it. It reminds you that even though winter is cold, silent and retreated, that it is necessary to rest and restore yourself to prep yourself for the spring, because you will need energy to begin again, you will need to work to wake and grow.  It reminds me that every season is essential, both literally, metaphysically, and metaphorically.

Finally, summer solstice has taught me over the years , the connection of nature, how all of nature is truly intertwined and interconnected. Watch the birds in their own little world, the insects, even the weather itself. Each action serves a distinct purpose at any given moment. If full bloom you can see the glory of mother earth and all her babies. You can see yourself. Your life. Your dreams and aspirations. Your desperation at times, your anger and sadness . You can SEE from your heart and mind.

Summer is the peak before the time of harvest. A time of celebration and love. Appreciation and pleasure. That’s what I’m talm’ bout.

The Effects of Andie’s Energy Work

Not long ago, Andie wrote an article about “what she does”, and that article did a great job at explaining in simple terms, what energy work is and how she uses it to help people. I have been one of Andie’s clients often. She has worked with me on various things. I received her energy healing to get ready, for a what turned out to be a most serious operation, and it felt especially loving and nourishing to receive her energy work afterwards. Every now and again, Andie works on different parts of my body that I have abused many years before I knew who she was.

Lately, a troubled knee starting giving me even more trouble. I went to the doctor and he will be checking to see exactly what they can do for me, but in the meantime, I had a lot of pain to deal with. I asked Andie to work on my knee while I remained open to where the energy needed to go. And the important part here,  is that I was open and remain open to the healing energy flow. Andie is great at making you feel comfortable, and also she works so simply without a lot of ego or chat going on. If you can be still and relax, Andie can work with you. But you must also be open.

After a few sessions, the terrible pain began to dissipate and though the knee itself is still very stiff and awkward, I am almost pain-free, waiting for my doctor to look at the x-rays. You see, receiving energy work does not mean you throw traditional medicine out the window. Andie and I both have wonderful doctors on our health team and we use them. It’s all energy, we are all energy. So what she did with my knee was not some airy fairy, “you are healed” kind of situation. It was and still is a collaboration between me, the doctors, and Andie. All energy. We are all energy and every thing is energy.

Now, through Andie’s work, I can be patient and see what the doctor and I will decide to do about my torn meniscus, which is what my doctor believes is the problem. I don’t have to deal with such awful pain. I was open, and am still open to Andie being a conduit to allow enough energy through to keep me out of pain.

Remember that energy work from a patient’s point of view is a partnership, a collaboration. I shared with my doctor’s assistant, that I was working with Andie and he said, “that’s great”. He said when we do clarify and pinpoint the issue, “it is up to you to decide what you want to do”.

I will continue this energy collaboration between myself, my doctor, and Andie’s healing work, and eventually, the everyday stiff reminder that I have a knee injury will also pass. As all things do. It may show up now and then, but that’s ok, I’m human and this is the experience.

I thank Andie for being that conduit, for allowing healing energy to flow through her hands and I wanted to share from a personal point of view, “what Andie does”.

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