The people who know me today, know me as a freelance writer, someone who enjoys creating collage, an experimental spiritualist, and a spiritual mentor. The people who knew me ten years ago, may have seen some of that within me, or through my conversation, but they really knew me as someone else. I was simply being myself then, as I am being myself now. Why such a different “self”? Because whenever I felt a spark inside of me to do something new, to try something else, I just went ahead and did it. I concerned myself with refining or perfecting, while I was in the process. And believe me, most of these changes and challenges were pretty difficult but I don’t regret the decision I made to dive right in. Diving right in is my own personal way of stretching myself and expanding my life. It doesn’t have to be your way. But I feel that everyone has a way. A way to move forward, or maybe even go back to a dream or goal in the past. Everyone has a way of becoming the self that longs to break out and break free into your current reality. The Way is the spiritual path. And the spiritual path is the Life path.
One of the secrets of my growth and ability to dive right into new experiences is my affinity towards recognizing my own excuses. And now that I can recognize my excuses, and let me set this straight, an excuse is not a reason, a reason is “I cannot begin ski class today because my leg is broken”; an excuse is “I cannot begin ski class today because I come from a family of clumsy people.” To be even more clear on what I mean, an excuse is something, that in time you can overcome or lessen, or make stronger. For example, I want to sign up for a script writing and film making class and my excuse was that I simply lack the discipline to enroll myself in an actual class. The truth is, I am NOT naturally disciplined. Discipline does not come easy for me, but is that a reason to put all things aside that may require it? I decided, I don’t think so.
It’s not about what we “naturally are”, or what we “naturally are not”; life is about knowing when to challenge ourselves, when to stretch, when to do something that is out of the norm for us. After all, sometimes you need to break in a tight pair of shoes until they feel right. Funny how we will pain ourselves over these mundane material things, but we don’t feel the value of going through a bit of discomfort to witness our own expansion.
Your reasons are what they are; your excuses have nothing to do with your reasons. And if you are having trouble discerning the difference between the two, begin with this: a reason is normally out of your control at the moment, while an excuse is a circumstance that most likely has always been, and all you need to do is challenge its validity.